Question:
My non-Muslim friend wishes me “Ramadan Mubarak” and “Bakrid wishes.” When I do not wish him for Diwali or Pongal, he asks, “Why do you not greet me when I greet you?” What should I say?
Answer:
Generally, in religious matters we should not compromise our principles. That is clear. Just because someone does something, we are not required to do the same. For example, suppose he says: “I come to your mosque or dargah. Why don’t you come to our temple and worship?” What would you reply? If he does something, does that mean we must also do it? No. He has permission in his religion; we do not have permission in ours.
He may worship many gods. But for us, we are not allowed to worship anyone except Allah. That is our clear belief. In the same way, some practices are permitted for them but not for us.
In our religion, we are instructed not to support falsehood, not to assist wrongdoing, and not to endorse what is incorrect. So just because they greet us, we are not obligated to greet them in the same religious manner.
However, this should be explained gently and wisely, without hurting feelings. You can say: “When you greet me for Ramadan or Bakrid, your religion does not forbid you from doing so. If your religion had prohibited you, you would not greet me. But in my religion, there are certain limits.”
At the same time, clarify that you maintain good relations — you attend their family functions, help them in times of need, show kindness and friendship. Islam does not forbid kindness. But specifically endorsing a religious belief behind a festival is different.
For example, regarding Diwali, there are beliefs connected to it, such as the story of Narakasura. If we say “Happy Diwali” intending to endorse the religious meaning, it may appear as if we accept that belief. That is why we avoid such wording.
But we can handle it wisely; like Prophet Ibrahim (Alahis Salam), who dealt with his people gradually and with wisdom. When invited to their festival, Prophet Ibrahim (Alahis Salam), said he was unwell and did not attend. He avoided participation without creating open hostility.
Similarly, instead of saying “Happy Diwali” or “Happy Pongal,” you may say: “May you have a good day,” “May your day be joyful,” “Wishing you happiness and well-being.” He may take it as a greeting, but you have not endorsed the religious aspect. This is a wise and balanced way.
Alternatively, you can clearly explain: “I wish you happiness and goodness, but I do not participate in the religious aspect.” That way there is no misunderstanding.
The key is: do not endorse what contradicts your belief but also do not create unnecessary hostility. Handle it with wisdom.